THE idea of letting go of someone with whom you have so much history and a long, exciting future really is the hardest part about participating in the game of love.
You see, we are born to love. It makes our souls happy and our hearts smile, and if it is the right person, giving your love to him or her really isn’t something we must “learn” to do, as if it is a craft that needs to be perfected.
Love is imperfect, it can be messy, it can be conflicting and it can be everything in-between. But ironically, we feel most content with our lives when we have it.
Letting go, on the other hand, well, that is something far less natural and far more confronting. All of a sudden, plans must be ditched. You are left with nothing, but the sad reality that you can no longer be together.
Unfortunately, the memories are the worst part. It seems as though everything in this world is capable of reminding you of the true joy you felt when you were with this person. You catch yourself smiling, or even laughing, as your mind recalls a hilarious memory you two shared. But those memories will remain just that: only a memory.
Telling yourself repeatedly to “let go” or to “cut loose” really does nothing when it comes to getting over a failed relationship. It is literally impossible to stop yourself from recalling certain events and wondering about all of the “what ifs.”
We cannot expect ourselves to simply shake it off in the early days of our new reality. Yet, we must keep our trust that to let go of someone we loved is not an overnight realization, but a process.
After all, we mourn the losses of loved ones who have passed, but we fail to realize that although this loved one may not have passed away, we must still mourn the loss of no longer having him or her in our lives, in that same way.
With time, those feelings will be replaced with new feelings of excitement, freedom and anticipation for your new future with someone else.
The art of letting go is forever a work in progress, as we will forever remember what we shared with the people we loved. We will forever have those memories tucked away, until new memories with new people overshadow the old ones.
As life flies by, we will come to realize that there are certain people you are meant to love and be with, but not all of them are meant to stay in your life forever.
People will come and go, and eventually, we will share the love, which once came so naturally, with someone new, some day.
You just need to have faith that the Lord would help you find another place, another time, another world, another life, for you to turn right. You just have to find the good in good-bye.
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Joshua Cyril Constante Razon writes about things that makes him strong and vulnerable at the same time. He turned 20 last month.
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