LAST week, I shared how parents can deepen bonding with their kids through play, which results in building the character of children. This week, let me put the focus on dads and sports. The present situation has opened the door for fathers to play a more vital role in their child’s growth and development. With them spending more time at home than ever before, dads can now share the load in running the household with their significant other. Research has shown that parent-child interactions in the early ages can lead to more positive cognitive and socio-emotional benefits, and more are recognizing the unique benefits of father-child play.
Former MILO champion Japoy Lizardo has taken this trend to heart as a father to his sons Jace and Jevi. He offers advice for dads to help them be more involved and take a more active role in caring for their children. First and foremost is the need for dads to be as resourceful and creative caring for their kids’ physical health.
“Ngayon mas kailangan maging creative and resourceful para sa mga activities ng mga kids. Unlike before na pupunta lang kayo sa park at maglalaro o pupunta lang kayo sa basketball court, magdi-dribble kayo dun, ngayon kailangan na talaga ng magagandang mga activity at kailangan namin sila gawan ng sarili nilang court,” said Lizardo.
The need for innovation extends beyond Lizardo’s role as a dad, as he is also a beloved coach to many aspiring taekwondo athletes. Along with his wife Janice, the pair are among the many coaches today who have had to learn how to shift from face-to-face trainings to a more distant-learning approach. This of course comes with its own set of challenges, but Lizardo continues his work of training and raising the next generation through his involvement in several online programs such as the MILO Sports Interactive Online Classes (MSIOC).
“’Yung ating pagiging champion noon, at least kahit papaano nadadala natin hanggang ngayon. So kahit naman noon na face-to-face training na nakaka-develop tayo ng mga champions and mga students natin na aiming na pumasok sa sports, we can still develop champions through online classes. So hindi pa rin natitigil ’yung pagdi-develop natin at pagbi-build natin ng champions mula noon, hanggang ngayon,” added Lizardo.
Coaches, much like parents, also play a role in a child’s growth and development. Aside from their parents, aspiring athletes spend the most time with their coaches, so it is just expected for Lizardo to instill values just as a parent would. It goes beyond the gym and just teaching them the skills needed to be good at a sport. Instead, he recognizes how being a coach also carries an extra responsibility of being a father figure to his students, passing on the life values one can learn from sports to his students just as he does with his own kids.
“Lahat ng students namin, ang tingin sa amin is parang kanilang second father. For us coaches, hindi lang naman ’yung sport talaga ’yung tinuturo namin. We also instill ’yung values na natutunan namin nung kami ’yung nasa kalagayan nila. So kami, as coaches, tinitingnan namin ’yung mga students na parang mga anak namin talaga. We also thank the parents din na pinagkatiwalaan kami to teach their kids,” said Lizardo.
From being the “Flying Prince of Kick” in his youth to now being a coach and a father, Lizardo continues to serve as a role model for a younger generation of athletes, including his kids. As both a dad and a coach, he remains committed to inspiring them through sports and the values that come with it, specifically discipline, respect, teamwork and leadership—the very same values that he says helped him be where he is now. “Ito ’yung mga values na natutunan ko during my athlete days na nadadala ko hanggang ngayon na nagku-coach na ako, and I want to share these values also to my students,” he added.
While fathers spending more time at home has led to increased social time with their kids, active paternal involvement has been trending for many years as parenting roles are continuously evolving, and it is important for dads to consistently play an active role in their child’s growth and development sa it offers another level of quality time.
According to Prof. Paul Ramchandani, playtime with dad has a strong link to children being better learners and forming friendships easier, as well as developing less anxiety and behavioral problems. Dads being more physically present also exposes children to a different style of parenting that can help them in managing different kinds of relationships in the future.
“To my fellow dads, this is my No. 1 advice: Let’s be good role models to our kids. Dapat mag-start sa atin ang pagiging physically active, at huwag tayong susuko, isipin natin bakit natin ginagawa ang mga ginagawa natin,” Lizardo concluded.