Being an older person on Stan Twitter can be challenging. It’s where 24-year-olds are called hags by 12-year-olds. But that’s not what bothers me the most.
Stan Twitter is an informal community of fans of artists and groups. It consists mostly of underage Twitter users, so navigating it can be tricky.
It’s that it is difficult to keep up with the words they use. For instance, it was only last week when I learned what “naur” was. I thought that it was an abbreviation for something, like afaik (as far as I know) is.
“Naur” is actually “no” said with an accent. I am assuming, but I could be wrong, that it’s with an Australian accent.
Anyway, one of the most challenging things on a social-media platform like Twitter for someone like me who was brought up by parents who weren’t exactly politically correct was how to navigate the app without offending anyone. So here, in a nutshell, are some do’s and don’t’s for Stan Twitter.
Always indicate your age and pronouns in your bio. My pronouns are her/she. You don’t need to state your actual age. You can just say 18+. If you tweet stuff that’s not fit for minors, you should say so in your bio (use “NSFW,” “no minors please”). This is so that kids don’t follow you and be exposed to stuff they shouldn’t be seeing. By the way, NSFW means Not Safe For Work.
By kids, I mean anyone under 18 in most parts of the world. In other countries like Korea, the legal age is older. One more thing that’s important is interaction with minors. If you’re an adult, you cannot be close friends with them. It is not appropriate. You can be cordial and have casual friendships with them but that’s it.
Also, you cannot describe any minor as “hot” or “sexy.” It is not appropriate. Another thing that older Stan Twitter users need to learn is that it is not OK to make jokes about skin color, weight and physical appearance. The jokes many of us (I use the pronoun “us” loosely here) make in real life aren’t acceptable on Stan Twitter, where users are of different races.
Disclaimer: I know that making inappropriate remarks about weight and skin color are tito and tita things but it is wrong.
“Mutuals” or “moots” are those you follow and who follow you back. “Oomf” means “one of my friends.”
For sensitive topics, you should use tw/cw. For instance, if you’re talking about sexual assault you should start your tweet with “tw // sexual assault”. Food also needs a warning so you can start a tweet with “cw // food.” If you didn’t know yet, “tw” means “trigger warning” and “cw” means “content warning.”
Stan Twitter is also a place where fans buy and sell albums and merchandise so a lot of abbreviations are used. “Want to sell” is WTS, WTB means “want to buy,” MOP is “mode of payment,” DOO is “date of order” and WTT is “want to trade.”
“Tea” is not something you make with a teabag and hot water but juicy details of what’s hot in terms of gossip and news. When someone says you “spilled,” it means that you said something that another person agreed with.
If you see something like “asfjfghgkl,” it means that person is very excited about something. If you see a Twitter user tweet in all caps, it means they are shouting. “Snack” is used to refer to someone who is hot. Remember that you can’t use “snack” to refer to a minor.
Aside from the terms I’ve explained, which are not new, there are many nuances on Stan Twitter that we need to understand as older fans. Stan Twitter is a place that’s filled with woke Gen Z fans and, honestly, I’ve learned a lot there. If you aren’t sure about anything, do your research. When you’re in doubt, ask a younger relative. Even using fonts in your bio is something you should look into. There shouldn’t be a shortage of people willing to help you. I know that Stan Twitter is a scary place but there are also kind people who will gladly tell you things you weren’t aware of before.