VALENTINES is getting closer and we tend to figure things out what will be the greatest adversary with our plans. Well, the thing is, do you know the difference between these two: the lush of lust and the cove of love.
What I am referring to in this article is the honeymoon (lust) stage of the relationship. This is the point where lust overwhelms every other aspect of the relationship and the novelty and passion blinds you from noticing any flaws in your partner. Unfortunately, this “blindness” contributes to many poorly calculated decisions regarding the longevity of your relationship with this new lover.
The honeymoon stage is the stage that captivates us all, setting the foundation for the relationship and creating unmatchable feelings of happiness, lust and passion. This period is the first few months of a relationship, where you and your lover become acquainted and begin to learn about each other.
You approach a level of elation that borders on delusion and the rush of dopamine in your brain convinces you that she, indeed, is the one for you. Like what You, my dear, are a victim to your excessive lust.
The problem with many modern day relationships is they are rooted in feelings of lust, instead of love, compassion and mutual understanding. Our sex-driven society suggests that it is logical to quickly bed potential significant others, however, when relationships are based in lust instead of love and understanding they are almost always bound for failure.
Gosh, you’re in for a tragic series of brutal breakups.
Poets, songwriters and even scientists have pondered the question: what is love and what is lust? Sometimes it can be difficult to tell if you are in lust or love, both are hard to define and the division of the two can get blurry. Love is one of life’s most intense emotions, and when you are in lust it’s easy to think you are feeling love but the two are different.
The true test of discerning love from lust is whether you have a desire to cuddle with her after sex. If so, it’s love. Lust will send you packing as soon as the deed is done.
Mistaking lust for true love is a huge mistake that many make, and when they do, the consequences are endless.
Signs of lust
- You’re totally focused on a person’s looks and body.
- You’re interested in having sex, but not in having conversations. You’d rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level, not discuss real feelings.
- You want to leave soon after sex rather than cuddling or breakfast the next morning. You are lovers but not friends.
Signs of love
- You want to spend quality time together other than sex.
- You get lost in conversations and forget about the hours passing. You want to honestly listen to each other’s feelings, make each other happy.
- He or she motivates you to be a better person. You want to get to meet his or her family and friends.
Lust is short-term fun, love is the long haul. Even though the two sometimes masquerade as each other, you should be able to tell the difference. The real trick is in deciding what you want…and that’s up to you.
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Cyril Razon loves to watch action movies during Valentine’s Day. Like his story online via the BusinessMirror Millennials Universe (BMMU) Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/pages/Millennial-Universe/435594193285671. Follow BMMU on Twitter via @millennial_U or Instagram (type Millennial Universe). Email comments or story to millennialuniverse@yahoo.com and the editor at dennis.estopace@gmail.com.